Damned if you do, damned if you don’t – On women and flirting signals

From the frisky:

“”"Just because we’re trying not to be a bitch conductor 24/7, doesn’t mean we want them to ride our caboose. But then again the opposite problem is worse—when we’re trying to get it on with a dude and he just thinks we’re being nice.”"

And you don’t catch the contradiction here? Imagine how frustrating it is for us? If you are interested, but we think you’re just being friendly – you get mad at us for not asking you out. If you’re just friendly, but we think you’re flirting, then we are (again) labeled idiots.

The biggest thing that a lot of women don’t know is that, you’re all unique and individual people… What this means is that… Every woman has her own set of flirting signals. There is no universal “woman code”. One woman does xyz, and it means “I am just being friendly”, another woman does the exact same thing, it means “I’m flirting”. Women are all different and unique.

If you’re flirting, but we think you’re just being friendly, its because a woman before you did the exact same things you’re doing, but when asked out, rejected us.

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This is why I suggest that men simply do not approach, ask out, or ever escalate with women. The very first thought most guys get when I tell them this is… WAAAAAAIT… WHAT? Am I supposed to be alone for life? Nope… She can do the asking out, approaching etc.